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Are you an introvert? About the meaning and traits

    Door Femke de Grijs

    Being an introvert, what exactly is it? Find out in this blog and also how to turn this into a strength as a Highly Sensitive Person, with inspiration from Susan Cain!

    Introvert meaning

    According to the dutch dictionary ‘Van Dale‘, introvert is “introverted” and “not very talkative”. The opposite of introvert is extrovert.

    Every person has both sides in them. You often recognise yourself either more in introverted behaviour, or more in extroverted behaviour, sometimes both.

    Introvert traits

    Introversion can express itself in thoughts (and how you make decisions), feelings and behaviour (such as how you deal with stimuli and communicate). An introvert may recognise themselves in these traits:

    Behaviour of an introvert

    Introverted behaviour consists mainly of Yin energy: that which we often call ‘feminine’ in our Western society:

    • You like to be in the background, rather than in the foreground.
    • You act quietly; for example, you don’t want to share what you are working on until it is finished.

    Introverted thinking

    • You contemplate, e.g. before you say something.
    • You can observe well.
    • You can be very focused.
    • You can be creative, you have creative ideas, for example.

    Relationship with yourself/others as an introvert:

    • You like to be alone.
    • You like to do things alone or with one other person together.
    • You go for quality rather than quantity in terms of friendships: you prefer to have a few good friends, rather than many ‘half’ ones.
    • You prefer talking one-on-one rather than in a large group.
    • You like in-depth conversions (rather than smalltalk).
    • You are a good listener.
    • You like to express yourself in writing, rather than verbally/telephonically.


    About 1 in 5 people is a highly sensitive person (HSP) and recognise themselves in these HSP characteristics. Basically, there are 2 different HSP types;

    • the HSP ‘peace-seeker’, who behaves more introverted.
    • The HSP Sensation Seeker, also called High Sensation Seeker (HSS), who behaves more extroverted. An HSS likes to seek out many stimuli in the outside world more. This behaviour consists mainly of Yang energy: that which we often call ‘masculine’ in our society.

    Introvert or extravert

    Besides the HSP peace seeker and sensation seeker, there are also non-highly sensitive people, who are introverted or extroverted.

    Quiet – the power over introverts (Susan Cain)

    In this Ted Talk, Susan Cain talks about introversion and the qualities of introverted behaviour. Tip: use these qualities, they give energy!

    Susan Cain wrote the book Quiet The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (for adults).

    Quiet The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking - Susan Cain

    She also wrote the book Quiet power- the secret strenghts of introverts for kids.

    Quiet Power The Secret Strengths of Introverts - Susan Cain

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    About Femke de Grijs and Mathijs van der Beek

    We are Femke and Mathijs: a Dutch couple and we are both highly sensitive and highly intuitive/paranormal. We feel a non-physical presence beyond the visible site and we are very interested in spirituality and sacred places.

    We love to travel the world with our dog Juultje (born in 2022).

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